Author: Bix
In our busy mom lives today, we often find ourselves taking care of everyone and everything else but ourselves. Yep, the kids, the pets, our partner, friends, careers, and those never-ending household chores — they always seem to take precedence. Sometimes, we forget to nurture the relationship that matters the most: the one with ourselves.
When I began my self-care journey, I started treating myself as an individual (with thoughts and feelings), rather than just another role in my life. I noticed that I'd often criticize myself, when it came to my various roles. It makes sense; we can be tough critics when evaluating our performance in different roles. But when it comes to an individual, we wouldn't just harshly berate someone for making a mistake. We'd have compassion and understand that nobody is perfect.
So, I began speaking to myself as I would to a cherished friend, offering words of encouragement when I needed them most. It hit me – why hadn't I started doing this sooner? Why had I been so hard on myself, doubting my abilities, and sometimes acting as my own worst enemy?
As I continue on this journey, I'm compelled to share this revelation with every mom out there who may need to hear why becoming your own BFF is an absolute necessity. It's the ultimate personal growth program, and here's why:
1. Unconditional Love
Being your own BFF means showering yourself with love, just as you would with your best friend. We express love in our friendships, and when we love our friends, we nurture them to grow. Similarly, when you truly love yourself, you create a warm, nurturing environment for personal growth. The love you feel for yourself goes beyond any external validation.2. Inner Strength
Remember those times your best friend supported you through tough times? Their encouragement and support strengthened your inner resilience, enabling you to face challenges you once thought were impossible. When you're your own BFF, those self-pep talks and self-encouragement do the same, empowering you to conquer difficulties with newfound determination.3. Embrace Your Flaws
Best friends never put each other down. They don't call each other imperfect; instead, they see potential in every quality, whether good or bad. By treating yourself as your own BFF, you enhance your self-confidence by acknowledging and embracing all your flaws, knowing that they make you beautifully unique.4. (Mom) Guilt-Free Choices
Your best friend would never make you feel guilty about choosing what's best for you. Similarly, when you're your own BFF, you grant yourself the power to decide what's best for you without a hint of (mom) guilt. It's about recognizing your needs and making choices that prioritize your well-being.5. Celebrate Your Growth
Best friends celebrate all forms of growth, no matter how small. These small victories add up. When you appreciate and celebrate them, you gain confidence in being authentically yourself. Plus, who doesn't feel great when there's a party in their honor?In the hustle and bustle of mom life, it's easy to forget that the relationship with ourselves are just as vital as the ones with our loved ones. Being your own BFF isn't just an act of self-love, it is the gateway to self-discovery. So, mama, remember that you're meant to be your bestest friend. By nurturing this relationship, you'll find the strength, love, and confidence to tackle life's challenges with grace. Trust me, you'll flourish into the incredible woman and mom you are destined to be.
With love,
Bix